#9 Have a growth mindset

So, you may be asking yourself “What exactly is a growth mindset?” Well, a growth mindset is an actual, demonstrable psychological phenomenon. It turns out that many long-term successful individuals possess certain characteristics that they share with other long-term successful individuals. This set of characteristics has been termed a “growth mindset”. Now, some people, who tend to achieve less than their full potential, also possess a set of characteristics that they share with other under-achievers. This set of traits has been dubbed the “fixed mindset”. Most people, more or less, fall into one camp or the other.

People with a growth mindset tend to have a desire to learn from life. This desire leads to the ability to embrace challenges, to overcome setbacks, to see effort as worth the results, to accept criticism and to admire and learn from the successes of others. These behaviors allow native intelligence to grow throughout a lifetime. (Hence, the name.) People with a growth mindset are believers in free will and this belief allows them to achieve their goals time and time again.

People with a fixed mindset tend to have a desire to appear smart, with a corresponding fear of looking foolish. Their desire leads them to avoid challenges, to give up easily, to see extra effort as wasted, to ignore or reject criticism and to envy and begrudge the success of others. These behaviors tend to limit native intelligence to a fixed amount. (Again, hence the name.) People with a fixed mindset often plateau early in life and fail to have, let alone reach, fixed goals.

The good news is that a growth mindset can be cultivated fairly easily by changing some critical behaviors. First of all, you have to decide to choose growth over stagnation. You also have to be willing to take positive action and begin to accept challenges and criticism and learning from both. An excellent way to begin is by developing the philosophy of “yet”. This simple step simple attaches the word “yet” to the end of every negative thought, as in “That will never work, yet…” or “It’s probably not worth going, yet…” This simple trick opens up the possibility for growth and that possibility leads to changed behavior that actually does cause the development of the growth mindset.

#9 Have a growth mindset

So, you may be asking yourself “What exactly is a growth mindset?” Well, a growth mindset is an actual, demonstrable psychological phenomenon. It turns out that many long-term successful individuals possess certain characteristics that they share with other long-term successful individuals. This set of characteristics has been termed a “growth mindset”. Now, some people, who tend to achieve less than their full potential, also possess a set of characteristics that they share with other under-achievers. This set of traits has been dubbed the “fixed mindset”. Most people, more or less, fall into one camp or the other.

People with a growth mindset tend to have a desire to learn from life. This desire leads to the ability to embrace challenges, to overcome setbacks, to see effort as worth the results, to accept criticism and to admire and learn from the successes of others. These behaviors allow native intelligence to grow throughout a lifetime. (Hence, the name.) People with a growth mindset are believers in free will and this belief allows them to achieve their goals time and time again.

People with a fixed mindset tend to have a desire to appear smart, with a corresponding fear of looking foolish. Their desire leads them to avoid challenges, to give up easily, to see extra effort as wasted, to ignore or reject criticism and to envy and begrudge the success of others. These behaviors tend to limit native intelligence to a fixed amount. (Again, hence the name.) People with a fixed mindset often plateau early in life and fail to have, let alone reach, fixed goals.

The good news is that a growth mindset can be cultivated fairly easily by changing some critical behaviors. First of all, you have to decide to choose growth over stagnation. You also have to be willing to take positive action and begin to accept challenges and criticism and learning from both. An excellent way to begin is by developing the philosophy of “yet”. This simple step simple attaches the word “yet” to the end of every negative thought, as in “That will never work, yet…” or “It’s probably not worth going, yet…” This simple trick opens up the possibility for growth and that possibility leads to changed behavior that actually does cause the development of the growth mindset.

In the case of selection of spouses

In the case of selection of spouses



Omar (R) used to walk around at night to know the exact condition of the people. One night when he came in front of a small cottage, he heard a conversation inside the house. The mother is ordering the daughter, ‘Mix water with milk. It’s dawn. The girl replied, ‘No mother, Omar (R) forbade mixing water with milk. He will punish if he finds out. ‘



The mother said, “Did you see Omar?” The girl said, ‘I will obey him in public, and disobey him in secret? By God! It is not possible for me at all. In another narration, he said, ‘Omar (R) may not be watching us, but his Lord is watching us! Hearing all this in secret, Omar (R) identified the house and returned. He later married the girl to his son Hamem. She gave birth to two daughters, one of whom gave birth to Omar bin Abdul Aziz (R) (Tarikhu Madinati Damascus 60/253).



Education:

In the selection of spouses, piety and piety should be given precedence over all other virtues.

Daughter of Baghdad



The capital of Iraq is Baghdad. This city in the Middle East has a long history of Islam. However, I will not highlight any Islamic history today. Today I will tell a beautiful story of a pious girl in this city. The story is-

There was a pious girl in the city of Baghdad, who was always engaged in prayers, fasting, and recitation of the Qur’an from an early age. In this way, the girl grew up at one time. One day the girl’s parents asked her to consent to the marriage, and she agreed. His parents fixed a righteous pot. Then the wedding day was fixed. All the arrangements for the wedding have been completed as usual. The girl was dressed as a bride.

Meanwhile, the call to prayer was made, the girl got up from the meeting and went to offer prayers. Relatives all began to say, hey what are you doing? Right now the bridegroom will come, your outfit will be ruined, what will you say if you see the bridegroom in this condition? The daughter replied, I do not fear anyone but Allah, whatever Allah will do for my good. I can’t disobey God’s command for what anyone says.

Then the girl went to pray. After a while the girl is not coming. Then the girl’s mother went to see her in the prayer room. The mother saw the girl still prostrating. Seeing the delay in getting up from prostration, the mother looked at her daughter’s body with her hands. The girl went after the mother to give her hand. It remains to be seen whether the girl died. Inna Lillahi and Inna Ilahi Raziun.

What a beautiful death. What could be better than death in the state of prostration in the court of God? The dignity of a martyr if he dies while praying. This beautiful story is taken from the book ‘Teachings of Quran and Hadith’.

The righteousness of the Muslim general Amr

The righteousness of the Muslim general Amr

One day there was a commotion in the Christian countryside of Alexandria. Someone broke the nose of a stone statue of Jesus Christ last night. Christians have become excited. They assumed that it was the work of Muslims only.
Christian leaders came to Muslim general Amr to demand justice and revenge for wrongdoing. I heard everything. Very sorry to hear. In return, he wanted to redesign the statue.

But the Christian leaders’ desire for revenge was different. Expressing their determination, a Christian leader said, “We consider Jesus Christ to be the Son of God. We are deeply hurt by his insult to his image. Money is not enough compensation. We want to disrespect you by making an image of your Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). ” Hearing this, Amr (ra) ignited like gunpowder, his face became inflamed with great anger. Restraining himself for a moment, he pointed to the Christian bishop and said, “My request, any proposal other than this one, I agree to.” I am ready to cut off the nose of any one of us and give it to you, whose nose you want. ”
Christian leaders all agreed to the proposal.

The next day Christians and Muslims gathered in a large square. Amr, the ruler of Egypt, appeared before the bishop and said,
“It is my responsibility to govern this country. The humiliation of you has revealed the weakness of my rule. So take the sword and you cut my nose. ”

With that he handed the bishop a sharp sword. The crowd is stunned, the Christians are stunned. Thinking around. He was afraid to breathe in silence. Suddenly a Muslim soldier came to break the silence.
Shouted,
“I am the culprit, there is no fault of Sipahsalar. I cut off the nose of the idol, I have it in my hand! ”

The soldier came forward and let him get his nose under the bishop’s sword. Stunned bishop. Everyone is speechless.
The bishop’s conscience was thrilled. The bishop threw down his sword and said,
“Blessed is the general, blessed is this brave soldier, and blessed is your Muhammad, in whose great ideals a noble, generous, fearless and strong man like you has been formed. There is no doubt that it is wrong to disrespect the image of Jesus Christ, but it would be even more wrong to dismember this beautiful and living body today. I also salute that great ideal prophet. ”