There is a big difference between friendship and love. However, the extent to which the seemingly formed friendship between two people of the opposite sex can be considered as real friendship is a matter of considerable concern. It is a matter of great doubt as to how much the friendship between a boy and a girl is capable of maintaining the status of real friendship, because this seemingly formed friendship can be transformed into love. Rabindranath Tagore, while trying to differentiate between friendship and love in his various contexts, admits this, saying that many people say that friendship can gradually change into love, but love can not stop at the end of friendship. Once I have loved, I will either love or not love; But *** once you have befriended someone, you are not prevented from establishing a love affair with him ***. That is, there is a place for the rise and fall of friendship. Because, he doesn’t occupy all the space. (Collected from Rabindranath Tagore’s ‘Miscellaneous Context’) On the other hand, according to renowned fiction writer Humayun Ahmed, ‘Boy and girl can be friends, but they must fall in love with each other. Maybe for a very short time, or at the wrong time. Or too late, or not forever. But they will fall in love … How true Humayun Ahmed’s idea is can’t be determined at once but it may be difficult to determine
Not that the closeness of a constantly growing relationship between a boy and a girl is always difficult to limit by the definition of friendship. Naturally, men are suddenly attracted to women in the corner, but women in the corner are not suddenly and intensely attracted to men. That is why in the mutual friendship and companionship of the boy and the girl, the girl is not so much attracted to the boy, but the boy is attracted to the girl. A recent scientific study in Norway found that women mistakenly described men’s lustful desires as friendly behavior, while men mistakenly treated women’s friendly behavior as lustful behavior. [… a new study in the journal Evolutionary Psychology has some compelling findings. The research, conducted in Norway, found that men, and women fundamentally misunderstand each other:: In simple words, when a boy is attracted to his girlfriend and trying to please her, the girl is wrong to use the boy’s behavior only as a friend. Doing.
Similarly, when the girl is just laughing and mingling with the boy thinking that she is just a friend, the boy thinks that the girl is attracted to him. How to call such behavior ‘friendship’, it is not exactly binding! And yet, if it is claimed to be at the stage of friendship, I will say that it is not a real friendship, but a replica of the romantic chaos and shamelessness hidden behind friendship. For good reason, Oscar Wilde may have acknowledged the existence of passion, love, enmity, etc. between men and women, but denied the friendly relationship, saying, ‘Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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